high-five (n. Slang): a gesture of greeting, elation, or victory in which one person slaps an upraised palm against that of another person.

The high five is ubiquitous. It’s a gesture that permeates every social environment — the workplace, the bar, the middle school kickball field — and it seems to be appropriate in almost any situation. Your friend got married? High five. You chugged an entire liter of IPA? High five. You just re-enacted, word-for-word, the opening sequence of A Clockwork Orange? High five! Since its inception, the hand-slapping maneuver has taken on multiple iterations and has never fallen out of style.

But tracing the origins of the high five reveals a riveting, heroic, dark story that seems to be everything the joyous gesture is not.

The motion of slapping hands with someone else has been around for thousands of years, and is nearly impossible to trace. Ancient Egyptian hieroglyphics dating as far back as 3200 B.C. depict such gestures, though it is academically unconfirmed as to whether or not these qualified as modern-day high-fives. These ancient drawings also indicate little in the way of proof of origin; most depicted hands, like those below, linger inches apart, perennially etched in time as contact-less orbs of flesh.

Eras later, the “low five” — essentially the same as a high five, but underhand and below the waist — was penned in the 1920s, and was used in the African-American community as a symbol of unity. But the gesture, also known as “giving skin,” was exclusive and underground, and never experienced the widespread acceptance of its more upward twin.

creating structure.

summer is here and I am loving experiencing the new season. from being able to ride my bike most days to the evenings staying lighter much longer - it’s just the thing we Wisconsinites need to make enduring those long, cold, dark winter days worthwhile.

at least that’s what I need, anyway.

but lately I find myself with more free hours than I’m used to and to be honest, the transition is hard. it always takes me a good few weeks to really settle into a new rhythm and those weeks blossom out of creating some of my own structure.

I started a new job about six weeks ago. that has been great but actually, the first four weeks were an anomaly for how my weeks will typically be. again, that’s just fine, and so now I’m finding my stride again.

last week that meant being home in the evenings when I could and cooking things for myself. cooking and baking (when I can stand it in the summertime) are how I ground myself.

this week I intend to build on that by starting to get up for a few morning workouts again.

and sleep! in summer especially, I find it hard to slow down and power my brain down early in the evening - likely because it’s light out until nearly 9pm.

what I’m trying to say here is that I’ve realized that for me, when structure isn’t inherent I have to work to create it. I’m ok with going with the flow for a lot of things in life, but in the general sense, I like to have a few solid things that I can use to reel myself from time to time.

as humans, i think we are sometimes slow to admit that we need to slow down and when we need to go back to our roots. for many people anyway, I see this as their truth. but for me, I don’t see it as a weakness, I see it as a strength to know when I need to reset.




- Question submitted by Anonymous

Dannielle Says: 

LOLOLOL. I like you because you asked this question as if there is a direct and not-at-all-complicated answer. HERE IS A LIST I MADE UP JUST NOW. 

1. Mix CDs - don’t make ‘em for one another.
2. Feels - do a weekly check in to make sure you are on the same page before you sex. 
3. Boundaries - if there are certain things that make you feel too coupley, like holding hands or cuddling or sleep overs or watching Lifetime movies, don’t do those things. 
4. ARE YOU TOTALLY OKAY IF YOUR FWB MAKES OUT WITH SOMEONE ELSE!??! Keep checking in and make sure this is the case. 
5. Don’t buy them presents.
6. Don’t sleep together every night. 
7. Don’t make your facebook relationship status “It’s complicated with… “ 
8. Don’t awkwardly introduce them as your “uh… friend? i guess??LOL” to people. 
10. If you don’t wanna share your Doritos and they’re like “come on share with me” stick to your guns bc the whole point of NOT being in a relationship is NOT having to share your Doritos. 

Kristin Says:

I deem this a comprehensive and educated list of rules. My list, therefore, is brief:

1. Follow Dannielle’s list of rules
2. Give me a fucking Dorito