“Don’t allow your mind to tell your heart what to do. The mind gives up easily”
― Paulo Coelho
Surviving trauma takes “firefighters” and “builders.” Very few people are both.
In times of crisis, we want our family, partner, or dearest friends to be everything for us. But surviving trauma requires at least two types of people: the crisis team — those friends who can drop everything and jump into the fray by your side, and the reconstruction crew — those whose calm, steady care will help nudge you out the door into regaining your footing in the world. In my experience, it is extremely rare for any individual to be both a firefighter and a builder. This is one reason why trauma is a lonely experience. Even if you share suffering with others, no one else will be able to fully walk the road with you the whole way.
I am constantly being reminded of the amazing people I have in my life. i’ve gotta tell them all more, that’s for certain. awesomeness, not to be taken for-granted!